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fridayfiver
1. When is the last time you were broke?
- I apparently invoked some sort of balance-transfer djinn two weeks ago after paying some bills online.  If you subtract what I owe from what I've got, technically, I'm in the hole anyways, and have been since sometime in late 2001.

2. What makes you lose focus?
( o ) Y ( o )

What were you saying?

3. How tall are you?
- Five eight and a half-ish.

4. Are you brave or cowardly?
- Circumstantially, either.

5. What's in your pocket?
- My money clip, which has some cash, my licence, two credit cards, and a Smoothie King stamp card in it.

thefridayfive
1) How do you feel about people who commit suicide?
- That they're dead.  I assume they have a good reason for it and they think they're better off.

2) What do you think people say about you behind your back?
- Shit that's probably true as far as it goes, from their perspective.

3) If you could own and operate any major business, what would it be?
- I assume that you're not going to allow "The United States Government" as a valid answer, even though it's obviously up for sale and grossly mis-managed.

4) Are you/would you be embarrassed to talk to your friends or family about sex?
- Look, if somebody doesn't start talking about sex at the dinner table when we eat with my folks, something's wrong.

5) In some cultures, young women are married and begin families as soon as they start a menstrual cycle. Do you believe this is right or wrong? Why?
- Nope, not keen on the arranged marriage thing.  Then again, it can't be any worse than the selected partner thing that's working like crap for most people in America today.  Frankly, if you're going to be in an arranged obligation, there should be some built-in leeway to occasionally fuck someone else so you don't grow bitter and resentful.  Having feelings isn't something that's capped at a finite sum.  Anyone surprised I'm such a fucking free-love hippie?  Kiss my ass.

Comments

[fenixinthedark.livejournal.com]

Anyone surprised I'm such a fucking free-love hippie? Kiss my ass.

Surprised? Only pleasantly. Polyamoury is not something one sees embraced by many, let alone understood.

[sestree.livejournal.com]

3) If you could own and operate any major business, what would it be?
- I assume that you're not going to allow "The United States Government" as a valid answer, even though it's obviously up for sale and grossly mis-managed.


YES !

[etcet.livejournal.com]

whether or not it works for any one individual, that's no reason to think it's completely fucked up. *shrug*

[mighty-man.livejournal.com]

4) Are you/would you be embarrassed to talk to your friends or family about sex?
- Look, if somebody doesn't start talking about sex at the dinner table when we eat with my folks, something's wrong.

That's not entirely true, it's not just with your parents, I'd say it's just about anyone in your family except maybe just kim. I think the best memory for me was the first thanksgiving I had with you and yours and your grandmother starts comparing Ron Jeremy to John Holmes at the dinner table. I have always used that as a benchmark for preparing significant others before meeting you.

[the-yellow-king.livejournal.com]

I did not know the last. Interesting.

[etcet.livejournal.com]

well, the time that becky pretended to be bi and kissed kim was pretty good, too. :-D

[mighty-man.livejournal.com]

Actually, if I remember correctly, Becky kissed Kim and then asked, "Am I a lesbian now?"
*snicker* But yeah, that was definitely amusing.

[kat1031.livejournal.com]

Interesting comment on the arranged marriage question.

I'm actually rather pro the concept of arranged marriages. Marriage for love is a rather new concept in Western society, and it doesn't seem to be working all that well.

I generally tend to think that marriage is a concept that needs to be rethought. It's not about "love" (although love is very nice) and it sure as hell shouldn't be about "lust" (although lust is really nice, it has a disturbing tendancy to be increadibly short-lived.) Marriage is rather a business arrangement. It's two people who are making a commitment to legally incorporate. Love whomever you want, have sex with whomever you want. But for crying out loud, make a commonsense and reality-based decision on whom you want to legally tie yourself, your assets and any future progney to.

[etcet.livejournal.com]

No, the line was "Am I cool now?" ;-)

[mighty-man.livejournal.com]

I might venture to guess that a large part of the "choosing" in marriage is the simple fact that today it's very easy to get out of the marriage. So if you didn't like your choice, you can just get it undone. I remember growing up that I didn't have any friends whose parents were divorced -- now it seems like I can think of at least half a dozen friends that have gotten divorced within the last 5 years or so.

I think if they made getting divorced a lot more difficult, I think people might be a bit more careful in making their decisions. And in many ways, yes, marriage is a business arrangement, but very few people see it in that manner.

In regards to kat's last statement...the problem with loving and having sex with whom you want kind of negates that reality based decision of who you want to have progeny with. I can think of several women who, though they love their children dearly, regret their choices in the father of their children.

[mighty-man.livejournal.com]

The "Am I cool now" line was from the previous several dinners, this was merely a continuation from something Robin had said.

[kat1031.livejournal.com]

I think if they made getting divorced a lot more difficult, I think people might be a bit more careful in making their decisions. And in many ways, yes, marriage is a business arrangement, but very few people see it in that manner.

I think both marriage and divorce should be a bit more difficult. People have a bad tendancy to confuse the idea that you should try to be happy with the notion that happiness is some sort of guarnatee. I know a bunch of people who got a divorce because they "just weren't happy" but that's just crap. No one is happy all the time (unless they're mentally ill) and no one can make another person happy. People can facilitate happiness or unhappiness, but they are rarely responsible for it.

Of course, this does not apply in cases where something in the marriage has seriously gone wrong. I'd divorce Satori if he, for example, started abusing me or developed a drug/alcohol problem that he refused to deal with. Other than that, one divorce was plenty for me. (The reason that my first husband and I divorced is that we were, in a lot of ways, holding eachother back. We are both more personally and professionally successful since we separated. We're also really close friends, because we made the decision to end our marriage before we got to the point of actively loathing eachother. After that, I rethought the idea of marriage. I like him a lot, and even love him a lot, still... but we both wanted very, very different things out of life and what made me feel fulfilled and successful made him crazy.)

In regards to kat's last statement...the problem with loving and having sex with whom you want kind of negates that reality based decision of who you want to have progeny with. I can think of several women who, though they love their children dearly, regret their choices in the father of their children.

I don't think that it does. Birth control is always an option. Yes, I know that mistakes happen... But I think it's a better idea to not have children with people who won't make good parents. I've always been damn careful with preventing any binding ties with people who I thought were cute, fun, sexy, interesting or whathaveyou, but didn't want to be a permanant fixture in my life. I don't think that it's too much to ask that other people do the same.

This is another whole discussion, but I think that many people often have overly romantic ideas about parenthood and think that a baby will somehow complete their life, when in reality all a baby does is complicate one's life tremendously. In the right situations, that complication can be extremely rewarding and very worth the effort. In the wrong situations, babies end up in dumpsters, in foster care, neglected or worse. They aren't dolls, people. And it's difficult to change your mind once the bouncing bundle of joy has arrived.

[geekers.livejournal.com]

Hippie! ... and I say that with much affection.