i'm not unfriendly. really.

[digitaldiscipline]

[inspired by the behavioral musings of thewronghands]

I'm in much the same mindset that dancinglights & ravenblack espouse:

1) I am essentially lazy, and do not want to bother creating a "to read daily" f-list; hence, people with an excessive number of posts daily, especially with a low S/N ratio, are either not friended, or quickly culled - I have had to explain this on a couple of occasions to the person in question. yes, i -know- i'm an asshole about this. this is also why i try to keep my fluff to a minimum.

2) The vast majority of my f-list is people I know well, primarily from online acquaintence, and a very substantial percentage of them I have met in person on multiple occasions. These are people who legitimately -are- friends in the "old fashioned" sense.

3) A very small handful of f-list denizens are people who are friends IRL, but who seldom, or never, post to LJ, and I want them to be able to read the small subset of my posts that are locked away from public consumption.

4) A small number of f-list people are LJ-met persons [delicarose & motel666, among others] who were persistently interesting to read or who have been "recommended reading" by someone whose opinion I value. I would also bundle the lj-feed comics I read [ with_gusto especially] in this category, though conversation is not really pursued.

5) Essentially, LJ has supplanted certain other forums where people I was friendly with would interact - IRC, e-lists, etc. I railed violently against it, but when it became a matter of "get on LJ or lose touch with these people I don't wish to lose touch with. . . . " well, here I am.

I have been [rightly] accused of being "stingy" with my friending behavior; I am more "read" than "reading" by most metrics, but am relatively light on provoking conversation by dint of the nature of my content; i do, however, comment all over the damn place, save for cascades of hugs & support in many instances.

Comments

[singingwolf.livejournal.com]

Well, I'd say that I hope my occasional fluff days didn't bother you... but since you never added me to your list in the first place... LOL

[etcet.livejournal.com]

I get my fix via netgoth and critus and alt_diet. *grin*

[singingwolf.livejournal.com]

Don't forget delicarose...

Yeah, I usually try to leave out the "fluff" with all of them. *grin*

[trystbat.livejournal.com]

I suspect if I keep posting about boots, you'll drop me as more noise than the signal's worth ;-)

[etcet.livejournal.com]

Not necessarily. . . though I do not grok the fashionista stuff, those boot links, especially since you wear a similar size to K, make nifty fantasy fodder. *muahahaha*

[helcat.livejournal.com]

Somewhat relevant to our other conversation, when you did f-list me, I felt all special and stuff. :)

But thank you for becoming my _friend._

[etcet.livejournal.com]

Heh. You were guilty of being one of the chatty ones. *snerk*

[helcat.livejournal.com]

Yes, but there's signal, honest!

back when i was filtering more often, I really wasn't THAT chatty to the broader public. but I've been posting publically since about November, and so it really opened up pretty wide there.

Ok, ok so I can't shut up. But I'm cute. :)

[webmd.livejournal.com]

You forgot #6: People with big knockers who occasionally post pictures of themselves, making their usual boring drivel worth putting up with. ;-)

[geekers.livejournal.com]

Haahaa!

[etcet.livejournal.com]

pfft! i knew you in person first. the cheesecake is just a bonus. :-P

[geekers.livejournal.com]

That doesn't make the comment above completely untrue though... ;}~

[etcet.livejournal.com]

Heh. Trying to get my ass kicked, I see. You fall into the "interesting friend of a friend" subcategory.

my shameless flattery and half-assed attempts to get back into the publishing field are. . . ehhhhhhh. *laugh*

[webmd.livejournal.com]

Shameless flattery is always appreciated. :-) Sorry I couldn't be more help with the job thing though.

[timly.livejournal.com]

oh, you're just an arse and you know it.

[etcet.livejournal.com]

are you on a unicycle in that icon?

[delicarose.livejournal.com]

Thank you, I'm very glad to know you.

[etcet.livejournal.com]

even if, occasionally, you sound like dom delouise. . . "oooooh, a SPARKLY!!" *grin*

[mpeace.livejournal.com]

i try to keep my fluff to a minimum

Your shower drain appreciates it... ;)